Monday, September 22, 2008

Life is Full of Surprises

Strange, strange. Until today, this was the blurb for this blog:

Life is full of surprises. Two years ago I thought I was a happily married man in an open relationship who would remain married to my wife for the rest of our lives. Now I'm in the process of divorce and courting the mother of my child.

I was all set to move in with R this month, and then....

My wife asked me to give her another chance: three months to show me that we could live together better and happier than we had ever been before. I told R that I was deeply tempted by the offer, and thought that maybe I owed it to her to let her try again. R reluctantly agreed to allow me the three-month trial.

I'm not sure if I said or did something wrong, or gave R some kind of wrong impression, or if maybe it was simply that when I took my wife up on her offer, but R took it very badly. She showered me with blistering abuse for several days, in response to which I tried to be polite and respectful.

Although she had previously given me many assurances that she would always allow me to spend time with our child, R revoked that offer and swore that I would never see him again.

I don't know whether R will feel differently in the future. Hell, I don't even know whether my wife and I will be able to work things out, although she has frankly surprised me so far. If I do wind up staying with my wife, I know that R and I will probably never be entirely comfortable with one another, but I hope that I will be able to offer R and her child whatever help and friendship I am able.

And although neither my wife nor R want to hear it right now, I will say once more, for the record, that I love R and always will.

Now, Always and Forever.

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Face In A Crowd said...

Didn't you revoke promiss after promise over and over again, doc? Yet, you find fault in R for doing the same?

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911 said...

I keep my promises.

Jesse J said...

Aw -- where has R gone? Her blog is blocked.

Dr Psycho, she must have got the message you were done with her and that kid.

Anonymous said...

Linked here from comments you posted on another blog and was reading when I came accross the link in the commments above.

If that is your child pictured, he is cute. If the postings are true, brother, you are cold and mean sprited.

Jesse J said...

According to "R"'s blog it look you will get the child.

Then get support from her. As I remember her comment she has plenty of money.

And do not let her see the child, beside he should be raised by a man and in a two parent home.

Jesse J said...

fff

Jesse J said...

"R" removed her blogs. No more following the saga of what will happen to that little boy. If she drops him at your door you will let us know, right?

Just a Voice said...

Look back on this now. I am shock that this is how you describe what happen because I agreed to nothing. I wasn't given a choice to agree or not; you paint a far kind picture of event but whatever.

My comfort level is all my responsible or so I've been told repeatly over the last year.

Your not able to offer anything in way of friendship and you knew that when wrote this.

As, for the rest of hopes that all they are hopes -- there is not real about them.